Top Ten Myths

1. Myth: Kinship caregivers “signed up” for this, so they must have been prepared.

Reality: Most kinship caregivers step in during a crisis, with little to no warning or preparation. They often assume caregiving roles out of love and duty—not because they were ready or equipped.

2. Myth: Kinship caregivers are automatically given financial support.

Reality: Unlike licensed foster parents, many kinship caregivers receive little to no financial assistance, even though the costs of raising a child remain the same—or even greater due to trauma-related needs.

3. Myth: Children in kinship care aren’t really impacted because they’re with family.

Reality: While being with family can be less disruptive than other placements, children still experience grief, loss, trauma, and instability when removed from their parents’ care.

4. Myth: Kinship caregivers always have legal custody or guardianship.

Reality: Many kinship caregivers are in informal arrangements without legal authority, which can make it difficult to enroll children in school, authorize medical care, or access services.

5. Myth: Kinship caregivers are older retirees who have lots of time and resources.

Reality: Kinship caregivers range widely in age—some are grandparents, but many are aunts, uncles, older siblings, or even close family friends who are juggling work, finances, and other responsibilities.

6. Myth: If a child is with family, everything must be fine now.

Reality: Kinship care may provide a safer environment, but the child’s emotional, behavioral, and developmental needs do not disappear. Support and understanding are still crucial.

7. Myth: Kinship caregivers don’t need the same training as foster parents.

Reality: Kinship caregivers often face the same challenges—trauma, attachment issues, school struggles—but with fewer resources or preparation. They benefit greatly from training and support.

8. Myth: Kinship caregivers are just babysitting until the parents get back on their feet.

Reality: While reunification is often the goal, many kinship placements become long-term or permanent, requiring stability and long-term planning.

9. Myth: Kinship care is always a smooth transition because the child already knows the caregiver.

Reality: Familiarity helps, but children may still feel conflicted, confused, or rejected. Family dynamics can become strained, and emotional trauma still plays a major role.

10. Myth: Schools and professionals know how to support kinship families.

Reality: Many systems are not fully equipped or informed about kinship care, leading to gaps in support and access. Awareness and training are essential to better serve these families.